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NEVERENDING ♾️ The NEVERENDING Raising Children Thread

There’s no trying to follow an IEP, they have to follow it. If you aren’t getting anywhere and they refuse to implement or follow the IEP, I’d pursue moving through the complaint process entitled to you/your son by law.

Check out your state’s PTI office for state specific requirements and they may also have experience dealing with your school/district. https://www.parentcenterhub.org/find-your-center/ (Find Your Parent Center - Center for Parent Information and Resources)

That is what I had to explain to the teacher. These accommodations are not just a wish list, but an agreed upon policy for our son's education, backed by federal law.

I did follow up with a complaint to the school districts special education department and they are opening a full investigation into the matter.
 
Around 12:30 yesterday afternoon I was just sitting down to watch some football pregame stuff and there was a knock on the front door. Our youngest was outside playing with the neighbor and I thought I had left the door unlocked for her but figured maybe not so I got up to let her in. I got to the door and I could see through the frosted windows there was some kid on the porch holding a sign. I figured they were going door-to-door for something and was about to just turn around and go sit back down but they had probably already seen me through the windows so I opened the door with the intention of immediately telling them "No thanks. Go away." but when I cracked the door open I saw it was our oldest daughter's boyfriend with a sign with some puns about band or music "officially" inviting her to homecoming. I did an okay job at stifling my laughter and thankfully our daughter just happened to be walking through the house just then so I didn't have to yell out for her.

Is this what the kids call "Cringe"? Because I felt it was cringe. :rofl: But our daughter appreciated the gesture, and that's what matters. She was also so thankful that he didn't do it at the football game Friday night like she says one of his friends was trying to convince him to do.

Her boyfriend lives about a mile away and I didn't see his bicycle and my wife asked how he got here and he said his mom drove him but he made her park a block away and then we could see her car parked around the corner. That made us laugh.

Our daughter had actually just gotten back from a walk with a friend of hers not long before her boyfriend got here and then we wondered what he would have done if she wasn't here when he showed up - Would he have sat on the porch patiently waiting? Come back later in the day? Should I have looked up her location on "Find My Phone" and pointed him in the right direction?

That was our excitement for the day yesterday.
 
our excitement for the day

Cringe? Probably not. But what about rizz? I feel authoritative on this because last week I helped my son make his sign, bought him a shark costume (don’t ask), and guided him through his hoco process. He coordinated his ask with his girlfriend’s mom, and got photos and a video of it all, perfect for SnapChat. Yeah, my son has rizz, for sure :cool:
 
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I guess I just don't understand why EVERYTHING is a MOMENT.

The ever-presence of constant ongoing interactions on apps like SnapChat is intense regardless of the isolation and physical distance from the actual people, so the opportunity to show key points in your life reinforces your significance. In other words, if you think of it in Lacanian terms, the form of communication intensifies the lack, so the method of communication, and the content delivered, needs to at least look like it overcomes the apparent lack.
 
I guess I just don't understand why EVERYTHING is a MOMENT. I mean, these are things that everyone does but yet so many feel compelled to share it with the world. I know, I know I'm probably just a grumpy old bastard but I don't get.
On September 29, 2025, MD Planner made the momentous statement that launched the 21st century Renaissance of Peace, Love and Plenty.

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On September 29, 2025, MD Planner made the momentous statement that launched the 21st century Renaissance of Peace, Love and Plenty.

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Coincidently, on CBS Sunday Morning last week they had Keanu Reeves and Alex Winter on talking about their current Broadway production and their friendship. It was a good segment.
 
How do you deal with not imparting intergenerational trauma to your kids? I'm guessing recognizing that this is present and your triggers is the first step, but what do you do to stop the triggers and create positivity in situations you're conditioned to be negative?
 
How do you deal with not imparting intergenerational trauma to your kids? I'm guessing recognizing that this is present and your triggers is the first step, but what do you do to stop the triggers and create positivity in situations you're conditioned to be negative?
As the father of three sons (18, 17, & 16)....

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It's difficult to convey how different the availability of information was a half century ago with today. Doing a book report in grade school usually meant shamelessly cribbing off an Encyclopedia Britannica article. Now, not only can you simply Google it, but if you're uber lazy can get AI to write it.
 
It's difficult to convey how different the availability of information was a half century ago with today. Doing a book report in grade school usually meant shamelessly cribbing off an Encyclopedia Britannica article. Now, not only can you simply Google it, but if you're uber lazy can get AI to write it.
It was Cliff Notes.
 
It was Cliff Notes.
I found books on tape the summer of my senior year of high school and thought it was a cheat code. At that time, it was still books on cassette tapes. I remember paying $35 because I couldn't make it through The Fountainhead. It was something like 22 cassette tapes. Between my trusty walkman and the car on the way to work everyday I made it through.
 
I found books on tape the summer of my senior year of high school and thought it was a cheat code. At that time, it was still books on cassette tapes. I remember paying $35 because I couldn't make it through The Fountainhead. It was something like 22 cassette tapes. Between my trusty walkman and the car on the way to work everyday I made it through.

I don't know why I never considered this. My parents were early adopters of books on tape and we'd check a bunch out from the library before every road trip. It never occured to me that I could have used them to get through some of the required summer reading books in high school that I just could never get in to.
 
I don't know why I never considered this. My parents were early adopters of books on tape and we'd check a bunch out from the library before every road trip. It never occured to me that I could have used them to get through some of the required summer reading books in high school that I just could never get in to.
My middle son actually prefers listening to books for schoolwork because he is a much better auditory language processor than a visual language processor.

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My middle son actually prefers listening to books for schoolwork because he is a much better auditory language processor than a visual language processor.

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Our oldest is a reader... as long as the subject interests here. She's like me where if the book or whatever she's reading just doesn't speak to her after so many pages, she's unlikely to finish it. She did have one book she had to read over the summer that she gave up on pretty early on and switched to the audio version.

She has a combined Language Arts/Social Studies course and they just had to read Walden recently. She didn't mind it but she said it felt like at least half the class was complaining so much about it that the teacher actually reminded them that audiobooks exist and maybe some of them should look into that. I guess 1850s transcendentalism wasn't really resonating with a bunch of 2020s suburban high school kids.
 
After I got kicked out of AP English because I wasn't keeping up with the summer reading (see Fountainhead and add The Awakening and something from Faulkner), I got bounced down to Honor's English. That teacher was a British literature fanatic. We spent the rest of the year reading Chaucer, Shakespeare, Austen, Thomas Hardy....

It was so boring. Luckily my brother and sister had her and she didn't change her syllabus or many of the assignments. I used them for prompts and guidance.
 
After I got kicked out of AP English because I wasn't keeping up with the summer reading (see Fountainhead and add The Awakening and something from Faulkner), I got bounced down to Honor's English. That teacher was a British literature fanatic. We spent the rest of the year reading Chaucer, Shakespeare, Austen, Thomas Hardy....

It was so boring. Luckily my brother and sister had her and she didn't change her syllabus or many of the assignments. I used them for prompts and guidance.
Beowulf...now THAT was a truly mind-numbing read.
 
My middle son actually prefers listening to books for schoolwork because he is a much better auditory language processor than a visual language processor.

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My youngest is like this too. I still prefer the written page over other mediums, but listening to a book is better than no book.
 
Our oldest had her boyfriend over to watch a movie on Sunday afternoon. They have to do a film analysis for their combined Language Arts/Social Studies class and decided to go with 28 Days Later - don't know why they picked that particular film but they both enjoyed it and I agree that it's a good movie... and I don't really care for horror movies.

Her boyfriend lives in a massive house with a legitimate theatre in the basement, complete with stadium seating and a professional popcorn and soda set-up; my wife decided that she was more comfortable with them watching the movie together in our den where we could more easily keep an eye on them. We aren't really concerned about anything untoward happening but we're all new to this "teenage girl having a boyfriend" dynamic.
 
Our oldest had her boyfriend over to watch a movie on Sunday afternoon. They have to do a film analysis for their combined Language Arts/Social Studies class and decided to go with 28 Days Later - don't know why they picked that particular film but they both enjoyed it and I agree that it's a good movie... and I don't really care for horror movies.

Her boyfriend lives in a massive house with a legitimate theatre in the basement, complete with stadium seating and a professional popcorn and soda set-up; my wife decided that she was more comfortable with them watching the movie together in our den where we could more easily keep an eye on them. We aren't really concerned about anything untoward happening but we're all new to this "teenage girl having a boyfriend" dynamic.
A previous home of ours had a walk-out basement (oddly facing the front) from a family room. My oldest daughter's room was downstairs, everyone else upstairs. She was a teenager when we lived there. The short version is that one night I chased a kid up the street who I thought was a burglar / prowler but turned out to be just a teenage boyfriend of my daughter. I still remember coming back in the house and her coming up the stairs stretching and yawning dramatically going "What's going on?" like she'd just woke up because of all the commotion. Such a bad faker.

My oldest. I'm still tired from when she was a teenager....and she's thirty now. Keep your running shoes by the front porch, but give her lots of freedom and support and make sure she knows that she is your favorite person and nothing will ever be the end of the world for you. Nothing. :)

Hang in there, you're starting well!
 
omg the boyfriend thing is hard - We tried to be the wait for high school parents, but even that isn't that realistic

If I could replay the tape, I would have worked harder at making my house the one kids wanted to hang out in - and it doesn't have to be a professional theater (but wtf, right), it's more like having their space that you don't occupy with comfy chairs and snacks
 
A previous home of ours had a walk-out basement (oddly facing the front) from a family room. My oldest daughter's room was downstairs, everyone else upstairs. She was a teenager when we lived there. The short version is that one night I chased a kid up the street who I thought was a burglar / prowler but turned out to be just a teenage boyfriend of my daughter. I still remember coming back in the house and her coming up the stairs stretching and yawning dramatically going "What's going on?" like she'd just woke up because of all the commotion. Such a bad faker.

My oldest. I'm still tired from when she was a teenager....and she's thirty now. Keep your running shoes by the front porch, but give her lots of freedom and support and make sure she knows that she is your favorite person and nothing will ever be the end of the world for you. Nothing. :)

Hang in there, you're starting well!
Sorry, I forgot you had like 4(?) teenage girls. Did you eventually learn any lessons or did you have to reinvent the wheel with each one? o_O

I'm glad I have 'boring' boys that don't seem interested in dating...though it's been tough to get an honest answer on the subject from two of them.
 
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Sorry, I forgot you had like 4(?) teenage girls. Did you eventually learn any lessons or did you have to reinvent the wheel with each one.

I'm glad I have 'boring' boys that don't seem interested in dating...though it's been tough to get an honest answer on the subject for them.
Four. Four shall be the number of the counting. They were all different but there are a lot truths that I hold to be self-evident, so I listed only the self-evident ones. :)

My boys have been different, that's for sure. Mostly they mock each other to show affection/love, share stupid videos, and compare notes about gaming, obscure history, guitars, comics, and the virtues and vices of various other strange interests. They also claim to have no interest in any fashion with the exception of really cool jackets and coats. I don't know why that is, but I sort of understand it.

*Shane and Luke, sitting on the couch watching youtube videos about 90's infomercials:

Luke - "You're a dork. Also your hairline is receding because you're too old to live in the basement."
Shane - "Whatever, neck-beard."
Luke - "Shut up, Redditor. Will you drive me to WalMart? I need a new razor."
Shane - "I will drive you and your womanly sensitive skin to WalMart but it will cost you."
Luke - "Fine, I won't tell mom you're gay."


This is pretty much any given Tuesday night at my house.....they're not complicated.
 
A previous home of ours had a walk-out basement (oddly facing the front) from a family room. My oldest daughter's room was downstairs, everyone else upstairs. She was a teenager when we lived there. The short version is that one night I chased a kid up the street who I thought was a burglar / prowler but turned out to be just a teenage boyfriend of my daughter. I still remember coming back in the house and her coming up the stairs stretching and yawning dramatically going "What's going on?" like she'd just woke up because of all the commotion. Such a bad faker.

My oldest. I'm still tired from when she was a teenager....and she's thirty now. Keep your running shoes by the front porch, but give her lots of freedom and support and make sure she knows that she is your favorite person and nothing will ever be the end of the world for you. Nothing. :)

Hang in there, you're starting well!
My stepdaughter was out one night looking at the stars. I think there was meteor shower or something happening. She took a blanket to watch in our large side lot. I had a fairly good idea the boyfriend at the time might "happen to drop by". Around 11 I decided to go check on her/them. I made enough noise coming out not to surprise anyone. My step daughter was on her blanket staring at the sky and I told her I was going for a late night walk. I knocked on the boyfriends truck about 2 blocks away and told him not to run through peoples backyards in Alabama around midnight. He's likely to get shot.

I wasn't very worried about anything happening, but I wanted them to know that i knew.

we're all new to this "teenage girl having a boyfriend" dynamic.
ever faithful, ever vigilant
 
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