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NEVERENDING ♾️ The NEVERENDING Raising Children Thread

WSU MUP Student said:
I never even knew that anything other than #2 pencils actually existed!
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Ah, then you've never experience the pleasure of using a No. 1. It has a soft, dark lead, which, while it doesn't keep a point for long, the lead isn't as brittle as a No 2. It writes thicker, richer, more easily read lines and is easily erased. When I worked as a newspaper reporter, some editors still used No. 1 pencils for marking up copy.
 
Practical application

wahday said:
Thanks for all the positive feedback. For the record, we read aloud as a family almost every night and my wife takes the kids to the library about once a week. ...What we realized just recently, though, is that this summer she was deferring to us reading these chapter books as a way to not have to wrestle with reading on her own. So, we are now trying to refocus on much shorter, simpler books and having her read to us. Its still very challenging for her and as I did a little more research about different reading issues, I see a lot of the common challenges present in her.

  • Pronouncing new words and remembering them
  • Breaking words apart into sounds
  • Blending sounds together to make words (this and the above are getting easier of late)
  • Can't remember words; sounds out the same word every time it occurs on the page (this is so distinct with her. Even if it was one or two words earlier, she just can’t make that connection that it’s the same word with the same pronunciation)
  • Frequently guesses at unknown words rather than sounding them out (when she reads to us, she often says every word as a question, looking to us for approval. I have been encouraging her to just read and jump in and don’t worry if its wrong or right - just take a stab at it)
... Anyway, we have engaged the school and are doing more reading at home and really trying to prop up her self-esteem which I think is critical to having the drive to continue working on the reading and not be discouraged. I’m just becoming aware of the possibility that we may need to seek some additional assistance or develop an alternative plan to get her up to speed.
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More ideas: Think up some helpful tasks that use reading skills.
Groceries? "We need red beans."
Trip planning? Find Schenectady (or wherever grandma lives) on the map, and the city that's halfway, and then plan the route.
Bring home a local zoning map, have her find Wahday St, figure out where other places/streets are. (And all the yellow - red- grey zones, bonus!)

I was recalling a HS algebra class and this one kid who kept asking for a practical application. The teacher became adept at coming up with things we could relate to; if we went to lunch and had to split a check, if we were measuring or weighing something, if we took a long trip and had to figure out the gas breakdown. One time I had my younger niece (an excellent reader) compare the state highway map with the interstate signage. It was pretty cool to hear the light come on as she figured out how far we were from civilization, how long the trip home would take, where the next rest area was.
 
wahday said:
Thanks for all the positive feedback. For the record, we read aloud as a family almost every night and my wife takes the kids to the library about once a week. They love it. Over the past year and a half, we have read ALL the Laura Ingalls Wilder books, a bunch of the Judy Blumes (those featuring Fudge along with some others), a few Beverly Cleary books and 4 of the Harry Potters. She loves big narrative books. What we realized just recently, though, is that this summer she was deferring to us reading these chapter books as a way to not have to wrestle with reading on her own. So, we are now trying to refocus on much shorter, simpler books and having her read to us. Its still very challenging for her and as I did a little more research about different reading issues, I see a lot of the common challenges present in her.

  • Pronouncing new words and remembering them
  • Breaking words apart into sounds
  • Blending sounds together to make words (this and the above are getting easier of late)
  • Can't remember words; sounds out the same word every time it occurs on the page (this is so distinct with her. Even if it was one or two words earlier, she just can’t make that connection that it’s the same word with the same pronunciation)
  • Frequently guesses at unknown words rather than sounding them out (when she reads to us, she often says every word as a question, looking to us for approval. I have been encouraging her to just read and jump in and don’t worry if its wrong or right - just take a stab at it)

I think it will ultimately be fine. I was one of those kids who had a love/hate relationship with reading. I had very high comprehension, but reading was (and to a certain extent still is) an exhausting enterprise. Recently my brother was describing some dynamic my nephew has where it is hard to focus on the line of text because your eyes are darting all over the page, being attracted to other words and mixing up the order of things. The field of words on a page is just too stimulating for some, making it hard to filter out in order to read. Once he described this, I realized “oh my gosh! That’s exactly what I feel like!” So, I probably have been wrestling with a similar challenge myself.

Anyway, we have engaged the school and are doing more reading at home and really trying to prop up her self-esteem which I think is critical to having the drive to continue working on the reading and not be discouraged. I’m just becoming aware of the possibility that we may need to seek some additional assistance or develop an alternative plan to get her up to speed.

I appreciate everyone’s input!
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I was just reading a food blog and thought of you. The author uses food to help her kids stay interested in reading. http://justjennrecipes.com Might be worth a try!
 
Veloise said:
One time I had my younger niece (an excellent reader) compare the state highway map with the interstate signage. It was pretty cool to hear the light come on as she figured out how far we were from civilization, how long the trip home would take, where the next rest area was.
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Very cool! I'm going to have my Addie try this on our trip to Bear Lake this weekend! Very cool indeed!
 
My youngest son is somewhere in the state of Dakota (Williston?), working on pipes and tanks. His birthday is at the end of this month. I've done my best to contact him for a mailing address. Nothing in response but cryptic messages. I guess all he'll get from me on his birthday is a voice message.

What are you gonna do?
 
His text tonight: "Another rig blew up yesterday. 2 men died. Kinda makes me think I don't get paid enough to get blown up"

I did a Google and the last I say was two men were severely burned in Williston.


My nerves are on edge.
 
Richmond Jake said:
His text tonight: "Another rig blew up yesterday. 2 men died. Kinda makes me think I don't get paid enough to get blown up"

I did a Google and the last I say was two men were severely burned in Williston.


My nerves are on edge.
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I hope he's saving a lot of the money he must be earning. I'd be worried, too, but it sounds as though he's reconsidering this job.
 
Richmond Jake said:
His text tonight: "Another rig blew up yesterday. 2 men died. Kinda makes me think I don't get paid enough to get blown up"

I did a Google and the last I say was two men were severely burned in Williston.


My nerves are on edge.
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I'm trying to imagine my son working somewhere dangerous and not being able to do anything about it and now MY nerves are on edge! That's got to be tough. Hope you keep hearing only good news from him.
 
ursus said:
Very cool! I'm going to have my Addie try this on our trip to Bear Lake this weekend! Very cool indeed!
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Ursus, you know I like you, but right now I am kinda hating you. Bear Lake. My wife wouldn't let me go this year. One malignant melanoma and surgery and suddenly I can't bake in the sun for several days. Sheesh! Women!
 
otterpop said:
Ursus, you know I like you, but right now I am kinda hating you. Bear Lake. My wife wouldn't let me go this year. One malignant melanoma and surgery and suddenly I can't bake in the sun for several days. Sheesh! Women!
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I wish I could put you in my pocket and take you with me! That sounded weird so forget I said it.

Now, your wife has a point. That could be scary, dude. I trust the recovery is good? I will continue to slather myself in sunscreen and make the best of it though..

I'm leaving in about two hours, so I'll be on the north beach for a late lunch and spend the afternoon. Short trip this time, back on Saturday afternoon.
 
ursus said:
I wish I could put you in my pocket and take you with me! That sounded weird so forget I said it.

Now, your wife has a point. That could be scary, dude. I trust the recovery is good? I will continue to slather myself in sunscreen and make the best of it though..

I'm leaving in about two hours, so I'll be on the north beach for a late lunch and spend the afternoon. Short trip this time, back on Saturday afternoon.
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Next week I hopefully see the dermatologist for the last time for a while and get a pass for six months to a year. Not that I mind seeing her. She is nice-looking and it is really the only way I can get a pretty woman to touch me all over without the risk of divorce.

And next year, my wife is probably going out of the country for a month, so maybe i can go next year. :p Yes, it is a sign of middle age and being thoroughly domesticated when a fellow dreams of his wife going out of town for a month so he can go swimming and get some sun. Watch out, girls. I am a bad boy.

So, go ahead and enjoy yourself
 
RT's 19th birthday is Sunday. Where did the years go? Last year's birthday was knocked out by a hurricane and she was stuck in Philly. This year her friends are planning a nice dinner party for her in NYC on Sunday. So I need to figure out something for the weekend. I swear she's the hardest kid to shop for. Maybe I will just take her for a pedicure and a nice lunch. She's worked 7 days a week this summer at two jobs so I haven't seen her much.
 
How do you teach a 9 year old girl who is a natural born leader, that her tendency to lead may sometimes cause friction with others?

Being a leader will serve her well in life, but as a kid, she's having a hard time understanding that she sometimes needs to back down. She also has a tendency to not want to accept blame. Is this also part of being a leader? Being able to shift blame?
 
kjel said:
RT's 19th birthday is Sunday. Where did the years go? Last year's birthday was knocked out by a hurricane and she was stuck in Philly. This year her friends are planning a nice dinner party for her in NYC on Sunday. So I need to figure out something for the weekend. I swear she's the hardest kid to shop for. Maybe I will just take her for a pedicure and a nice lunch. She's worked 7 days a week this summer at two jobs so I haven't seen her much.
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That's pretty thoughtful. I don't think I got a birthday thrown by my parents after 16 or 17. Once I was in college my friends usually filled that need (sorry). As far as presents in college it was mostly clothes, gourmet junk foot, and gift cards. I think the mom/daughter spa lunch idea is great.
 
btrage said:
How do you teach a 9 year old girl who is a natural born leader, that her tendency to lead may sometimes cause friction with others?
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Being a leader will serve her well in life, but as a kid, she's having a hard time understanding that she sometimes needs to back down. She also has a tendency to not want to accept blame. Is this also part of being a leader? Being able to shift blame?
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No experience raising girls but some with the leadership. It will probably take peer pressure (loss of friends, etc.) for her to understand the friction problem. I'd be more concerned about not accepting blame. Leadership isn't just telling people what to do, it's also accepting consequences. Tell her that good leaders make mistakes but they admit their mistakes and offer solutions for fixing them.
 
Yesterday evening we took our two-year-old daughter to a trick-or-treating event at the zoo. She's too young to care about getting the candy (though she does like dumping it all out of her bag, sorting everything by color or size, putting it all back in the bag, dumping it out again and starting all over) but she seemed to have a blast seeing all the other kids (and some adults) in their costumes as well.

The best part: Since she doesn't get to eat candy yet, I have a nice stockpile of Halloween candy built up at my desk at work now.

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ursus said:
I started out with the Mondays, but then....

I was making Addie's (7) lunch this morning and asked her if she wanted a different sandwich. Last year it was chicken salad. This year it's "Salvation Salve" (my mom used to make it, it's just butter, peanut butter and honey mixed up together.) She said "No, salvation salve please." I asked her why she didn't want something different, or school lunch or whatever.

Her answer: "Because at lunch when I eat my sandwich, it feels like you are hugging me."

I don't deserve that kid. I really don't.
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Hink said:
I think parents need moments like that.... to remind you why it is all worth it. It balances out when your kid throws the matchbox car at the tv or when you kid falls on a stick and has to get stitches....
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My son is so old school

Last night my 11-year-old son and I went to the library. I needed to do some research. He was left on his own to hopefully ignite the love of knowledge. After reading Mad Magazine, he browsed the periodicals. And later I found him going through the old bound volumes of National Geographic looking for pictures of naked and half naked native women.

Yes, I recall when I was about his age and National Geographic changed my life too. I do not recall her name or her country, but she was a flawless African beauty wearing a floral wraparound skirt and nothing else.

In this world of R-rated movies on Netflix and online pron, it is nice to know my son likes to do it old school, like his papa did. ;)
 
otterpop said:
Last night my 11-year-old son and I went to the library. I needed to do some research. He was left on his own to hopefully ignite the love of knowledge. After reading Mad Magazine, he browsed the periodicals. And later I found him going through the old bound volumes of National Geographic looking for pictures of naked and half naked native women.

Yes, I recall when I was about his age and National Geographic changed my life too. I do not recall her name or her country, but she was a flawless African beauty wearing a floral wraparound skirt and nothing else.

In this world of R-rated movies on Netflix and online pron, it is nice to know my son likes to do it old school, like his papa did. ;)
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Thanks for the chuckle.
 
otterpop said:
Last night my 11-year-old son and I went to the library. I needed to do some research. He was left on his own to hopefully ignite the love of knowledge. After reading Mad Magazine, he browsed the periodicals. And later I found him going through the old bound volumes of National Geographic looking for pictures of naked and half naked native women.

Yes, I recall when I was about his age and National Geographic changed my life too. I do not recall her name or her country, but she was a flawless African beauty wearing a floral wraparound skirt and nothing else.

In this world of R-rated movies on Netflix and online pron, it is nice to know my son likes to do it old school, like his papa did. ;)
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I remember those days. I remember thinking that I wasn't quite sure why I liked looking, only that I knew I liked looking.
 
Tough Love is tough

My son had his final wrestling tournament yesterday. He wrestled three boys. Wrestling the last boy, my son got his first ever win. He felt great. I felt great too.

Here's the thing: I talked him into trying wrestling. He wanted a break from tai kwon do. I suggested wrestling. Because? Well, because I thought he could use a lesson in humility. For him things usually come pretty easy. He is very smart and quick. He makes the Honor Roll with little effort. He is often the first kid in the class to understand new concepts. He is social. Girls like him. Guys want to be his friend.

He is a little full of himself.

So I suggested wrestling, because I thought he could learn humility. Wrestling teaches you humility the hard way. With your face pressed to the mat while some kid is twisting your arms and legs into a pretzel. And you go home sore and your mouth tastes of stale sweat and come-uppance.

So he lost every match except the very last one. But he didn't give up. Even when he knew he was losing the match, he wouldn't capitulate until the match was over. Then he shook hands with his opponent and went on. I was proud of him for not giving up and being gracious in defeat. And when he won, well, I was proud too.

But it was damn hard to watch him get bent, twisted and pinned time after time. Tough love is tough. I am glad it is over.
 
otterpop said:
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So I suggested wrestling, because I thought he could learn humility. Wrestling teaches you humility the hard way. With your face pressed to the mat while some kid is twisting your arms and legs into a pretzel. And you go home sore and your mouth tastes of stale sweat and come-uppance.

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As a former wrestler with a rather ignominious record, I salute you and fully agree with your description. And good for your son for sticking with it and earning his first win! There's nothing quite like the ref lifting your arm up after a triumph.:)
 
Allowance

The issue of allowance keeps coming up then fading away. We are not ones for giving the girl $ just because its the end of the week. We've also not been too forceful about doing too many chores, but it has been well understood if you want to earn your allowance there are several opportunities to do so.

We setup a chore sheet at one time. When she completed the 10 chores on the sheet, she got $10. Those included making the bed, loading & unloading the dishwasher, cleaning her room, etc. That went well for about a month then slacked off. That has been the the routine - in the begining she is gun ho, then slacks off.

Over the past week we've tried to get chores going again. She's wanting to buy a couple things and we've told her to earn her allowance with chores or put it on her Christmas list. Her best friend is two years older (12) then our girl (10) and has told her that chores are an easy way to earn money an buy anything you want. Now our girl is asking what she can do to help and we've given her tasks (wash dishes, fold and put clothes away) and she's been doing it for about a week now. I am really hoping it continues for more than a month or so this time. Anyone had similar experiences?

We've also given her 3 "banks" to put her money in - one for savings, one for church and one for spending.
 
Planit said:
The issue of allowance keeps coming up then fading away. We are not ones for giving the girl $ just because its the end of the week. We've also not been too forceful about doing too many chores, but it has been well understood if you want to earn your allowance there are several opportunities to do so.

We setup a chore sheet at one time. When she completed the 10 chores on the sheet, she got $10. Those included making the bed, loading & unloading the dishwasher, cleaning her room, etc. That went well for about a month then slacked off. That has been the the routine - in the begining she is gun ho, then slacks off.

Over the past week we've tried to get chores going again. She's wanting to buy a couple things and we've told her to earn her allowance with chores or put it on her Christmas list. Her best friend is two years older (12) then our girl (10) and has told her that chores are an easy way to earn money an buy anything you want. Now our girl is asking what she can do to help and we've given her tasks (wash dishes, fold and put clothes away) and she's been doing it for about a week now. I am really hoping it continues for more than a month or so this time. Anyone had similar experiences?

We've also given her 3 "banks" to put her money in - one for savings, one for church and one for spending.
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We've never done the allowance thing, We've tried to impress upon our daughters that as a member of the household, you're expected to do things. In turn, I have no problem giving you money for when you need it.

I know it may not help because they don't see the direct cause-effect relationship, but I also suck at doing charts, sheets, etc.
 
Planit said:
The issue of allowance keeps coming up then fading away. We are not ones for giving the girl $ just because its the end of the week. We've also not been too forceful about doing too many chores, but it has been well understood if you want to earn your allowance there are several opportunities to do so.

We setup a chore sheet at one time. When she completed the 10 chores on the sheet, she got $10. Those included making the bed, loading & unloading the dishwasher, cleaning her room, etc. That went well for about a month then slacked off. That has been the the routine - in the begining she is gun ho, then slacks off.

Over the past week we've tried to get chores going again. She's wanting to buy a couple things and we've told her to earn her allowance with chores or put it on her Christmas list. Her best friend is two years older (12) then our girl (10) and has told her that chores are an easy way to earn money an buy anything you want. Now our girl is asking what she can do to help and we've given her tasks (wash dishes, fold and put clothes away) and she's been doing it for about a week now. I am really hoping it continues for more than a month or so this time. Anyone had similar experiences?

We've also given her 3 "banks" to put her money in - one for savings, one for church and one for spending.
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I dealt with allowance in a similar fashion. Ordinary chores like keeping your room clean, bed made, and putting toys away didn't earn an allowance-those I refer to as "household citizen chores". I had a chart called 100 Ways to $100 for other things like vacuuming, dusting, taking out the trash, folding laundry, etc that had varying dollar amounts attached to each item ranging from $1-$5 and how often each item could be done. Sometimes RT was gung ho, other times not so much. When she wanted a few bucks she knew how to get them :)
 
Starting next month (the oldest will be 4) we will be giving commissions. Simple concept of work, get paid, don't work, don't get paid.

Compensated work will be both chore things like feeding the dog, putting the toys away, feeding fish, and clearing the table, and fun things like painting a picture, planting seeds for the garden, and reading books.

He will also be required to put 1/3 into spending, 1/3 into saving, and 1/3 into giving.

And yes... he will be getting THIS from Santa for Christmas. But then again, he loves numbers and reading, so I think he will really like it.
 
btrage said:
We've never done the allowance thing, We've tried to impress upon our daughters that as a member of the household, you're expected to do things.
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Same here - both kids know there are certain things they need to do to contribute to the household - keep their bed made, rooms clean, stuff picked up around the house, set/clear dining table, garbage. They are provided room and board (and some extras) in exchange for these things ;) As they get older, I expect that this list will grow to include other activities (dusting, sweeping, vacuuming, etc.) If they want to earn some money for certain things, they can help out with some bigger projects, Lord knows I have a ton on the to-do list.
 
We have implemented, with moderate success, a similar system to others. Certain chores/responsibilities are simply expected. They do get a modest allowance every other week, but it is predicated on doing what is expected. Allowance is pretty small, but they can earn additional money for doing larger ticket items in addition.

In reality, this is all rather difficult to track with so many obligations swirling around, especially on the weekends when most of this stuff gets done. We regularly forget to dole out allowance or enforce the base chore list. But overall, they get the concept.

The interesting thing is that the older one saves his money like a miser while the younger one is ready to go buy stuff RIGHT NOW! Instant versus delayed gratification you say? Well, when it comes to eating a treat, its the younger one who savors it while the older one gobbles it down and is later tortured by the other's lingering enjoyment.

Kids: they make no sense...
 
I was given $20/week as an allowance. I was not required to do any chores and at the time I liked it, but it never pressed upon me to do real honest housework. Now I find myself getting frustrated with my wife when I need to clean things or pick things up. I've spoken with my parents about this and they said looking back it was not probably the right thing to do. We will not have an allowance.
 
I give my son a base allowance for just being. It is $4/week. If he wants more, then he has to work for it. My wife pays him $5 a week when he helps her with teaching Spanish to her students. On the days we get a lot of snow, he makes out pretty well, because I'll pay pretty well not to have to shovel the driveway.
 
Perhaps time has played tricks with my memory, but it seems like Junior (currently in 1st grade) has waaaay more homework than I ever recall having in grade school. To be honest, I don't recall having any homework in 1st grade (although it's possible I simply may not have brought any of it home). Do you get the impression kids nowadays have a lot more on their academic plates than when we were kids?
 
Maister said:
Perhaps time has played tricks with my memory, but it seems like Junior (currently in 1st grade) has waaaay more homework than I ever recall having in grade school. To be honest, I don't recall having any homework in 1st grade (although it's possible I simply may not have brought any of it home). Do you get the impression kids nowadays have a lot more on their academic plates than when we were kids?
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I find it amazing how much stuff my 3 yo is learning. I remember pre-school as being a nap and running around a lot. I don't think I learned anything except that I like candy and checkers...
 
On the allowance topic - I received a few dollars each week growing up just for being be. I remember it was usually $1 or $2 when I was under ten years old then it went up to $5 and eventually $10 (or maybe even $20 when I was a junior and senior). I was expected to do certain chores around the house and I would generally get my allowance whether or not the chores were completed. However, if I didn't finish my chores, I might not be allowed to go someplace I wanted or be given a ride to a friends house or something, and we lived far enough out in the country away from my friends that if I didn't get a ride, I wasn't going! I was generally pretty good about doing my expected household chores though so it was never really an issue. I was able to earn extra money by doing farm work - helping bale hay or straw, loading hay or straw for customers, cleaning pens, extra garden work, etc.

I think we will probably do it the same way for our daughter when she is a little older. She'll even still have the opportunity to earn extra by helping out grandpa on the farm in the summers.
 
Maister said:
Perhaps time has played tricks with my memory, but it seems like Junior (currently in 1st grade) has waaaay more homework than I ever recall having in grade school. To be honest, I don't recall having any homework in 1st grade (although it's possible I simply may not have brought any of it home). Do you get the impression kids nowadays have a lot more on their academic plates than when we were kids?
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I don't honestly remember much about homework in 1st grade. My 1st grader has homework usually 1-2 days a week, and it usually has something to do with reading/reading comprehension. It seems about right.
 
btrage said:
I don't honestly remember much about homework in 1st grade. My 1st grader has homework usually 1-2 days a week, and it usually has something to do with reading/reading comprehension. It seems about right.
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Mine's getting homework 5 days a week. Typically, it takes us/him about 30 mins. to complete it. Seems excessive compared to what I recall.
 
Maister said:
Perhaps time has played tricks with my memory, but it seems like Junior (currently in 1st grade) has waaaay more homework than I ever recall having in grade school. To be honest, I don't recall having any homework in 1st grade (although it's possible I simply may not have brought any of it home). Do you get the impression kids nowadays have a lot more on their academic plates than when we were kids?
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It's not your memory. The load really has increased a lot. For RT nursery school was more about learning colors, numbers, being socialized, and having fun. Now that we are considering options for baby, it's a whole different world. Most likely I will finagle her into my organization's award winning dual language preschool when she's 3 &4.
 
ursus said:
No, but it sounds like it would break my heart! How are you doing with it?
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Not so good. Today is day 1. After a bit of research, we have decided not to follow our doctor's orders on this one. He wants Screecher in it 24/7 for a month. After 30 days of enduring that, he wants a follow up ultrasound to see if the harness is improving the shape of his hip.

Normal angle ranges for a hip are 60% - 80%. Screecher's is 55%. We think that is pretty darn close to normal (by comparison, a guy at work has a little girl who has been in one for 6 months already and her hip angle started at 25% and is at 45% now or something), so we are only going to put him in it a few hours a day and continue to just wear him in the moby with his little legs separated, and continue with double diapering. I just cannot stand how sad he looks in it and he just screams and cries with frustration at not being able to move. It is heart breaking.
 
TerraSapient said:
Not so good. Today is day 1. After a bit of research, we have decided not to follow our doctor's orders on this one. He wants Screecher in it 24/7 for a month. After 30 days of enduring that, he wants a follow up ultrasound to see if the harness is improving the shape of his hip.

Normal angle ranges for a hip are 60% - 80%. Screecher's is 55%. We think that is pretty darn close to normal (by comparison, a guy at work has a little girl who has been in one for 6 months already and her hip angle started at 25% and is at 45% now or something), so we are only going to put him in it a few hours a day and continue to just wear him in the moby with his little legs separated, and continue with double diapering. I just cannot stand how sad he looks in it and he just screams and cries with frustration at not being able to move. It is heart breaking.
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Is SeaMonkey sleeping a longer stretch at night yet? If so that might be the easiest way to get some hours it. It sounds like his dysplasia isn't too severe. I'd ask about a compromise.

Having 19.5 years between babies I can really say there is a difference about how interventionist pediatricians seem to be these days. The baby had some borderline kidney dilation noted on her fetal ultrasounds and it was monitored and measured weekly via ultrasound til she was born. I let them do an ultrasound before we brought her home which was still marginal but the urine output seemed fine. It was recommended that we put her on preventative antibiotics to guard against possible UTIs for 6 months. We declined and said we would just monitor her closely....no issues to date and she's 10 months old and thriving. Sometimes babies just need a little time and patience :)
 
kjel said:
:scissors: Sometimes babies just need a little time and patience :)
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Couldn't agree more! The Doc just got done saying, "in many other countries we don't see babies with this problem, mostly because in those cultures the mother wear's the baby around her waist for most of the time". Umm... so why can't we just continue doing that? He even brought up the comparison because we mentioned that we wear him a lot. :facepalm:

Glad to hear your little girl didn't need antibiotics.

--- I guess I should have put all this in the raising children thread. Oopsie. Where is Maister when we need him?
 
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