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RTDNTOTO 🐻 Random Thoughts Deserving No Thread Of Their Own 21 (2026)

I learned over the weekend you can order DoorDash from Dave and Buster's. That seems to me to be missing the point. (That place is more about experience, not the "meh" food.)
Sometimes I feel like a door-dash driver. If I leave the house, I am immediately barraged with texts from my sons. "Bruh, if you stop somewhere for a drink can we get Zero Sugar Monsters?"

They were less demanding when they were in diapers, I swear.
 
Sometimes I feel like a door-dash driver. If I leave the house, I am immediately barraged with texts from my sons. "Bruh, if you stop somewhere for a drink can we get Zero Sugar Monsters?"

They were less demanding when they were in diapers, I swear.
I have the opposite. I send a text: "Do you need anything while I am at (Target/grocery store)? to the reply of "No". What do you want for dinner? "I dont know" What snack do you want? "I dont know..."

Then suddenly there's nothing to eat. I dont want that for dinner. Can I get more hair gel? Im out of toothpaste...
 
I have the opposite. I send a text: "Do you need anything while I am at (Target/grocery store)? to the reply of "No". What do you want for dinner? "I dont know" What snack do you want? "I dont know..."

Then suddenly there's nothing to eat. I dont want that for dinner. Can I get more hair gel? Im out of toothpaste...

The fighting-est words in the English language - or at least at my house - are "What do you want to do for dinner?" The only time I truly wonder if I want to stay married is when we are resolving THAT question. What happens when we die, how many children do you want to have, do you want to bring another person into our marriage....all these questions could be navigated with less stress and anger on my part that "what do you want to do for dinner".
 
The fighting-est words in the English language - or at least at my house - are "What do you want to do for dinner?" The only time I truly wonder if I want to stay married is when we are resolving THAT question. What happens when we die, how many children do you want to have, do you want to bring another person into our marriage....all these questions could be navigated with less stress and anger on my part that "what do you want to do for dinner".
I have a trick that I use on occasion and you truly can only use it occasionally. I will randomly ask my wife or daughter, "guess what we are having for supper?" or "guess where we are going for supper?" They offer a guess and it is always what we were going to have or go for supper.
 
The fighting-est words in the English language - or at least at my house - are "What do you want to do for dinner?" The only time I truly wonder if I want to stay married is when we are resolving THAT question. What happens when we die, how many children do you want to have, do you want to bring another person into our marriage....all these questions could be navigated with less stress and anger on my part that "what do you want to do for dinner".

My struggle is this new realm of solo-fatherhood. When I am on my own and the boys are with their mother, I can scrounge food together (cooking for one, with leftovers for lunch), or stretch meals over a number of days. I am not picky.
But my kids are picky, and eat like kids. So there's a handful of meals they like. I can get creative too. But snacks, like I need to make a list of snacks they like. My ADHD plays into this too. Grocery shopping always nets a few things I forget so I go to a different store on the way home. Or I think of something to put on the this, but forget it, and dont realize I am missing it until later. I have settled into the fact that I am multiple trip per week guy to the store and cannot plan a weekly shopping trip in a single go to cover everything.

So, long story short, I get annoyed when the boys dont tell me what they want... but I also know they're just kids, they have other stuff on their minds. As do I. I'll make it work.

(really needed to get that out, I guess)
 
I have the opposite. I send a text: "Do you need anything while I am at (Target/grocery store)? to the reply of "No". What do you want for dinner? "I dont know" What snack do you want? "I dont know..."

Then suddenly there's nothing to eat. I dont want that for dinner. Can I get more hair gel? Im out of toothpaste...
The fighting-est words in the English language - or at least at my house - are "What do you want to do for dinner?" The only time I truly wonder if I want to stay married is when we are resolving THAT question. What happens when we die, how many children do you want to have, do you want to bring another person into our marriage....all these questions could be navigated with less stress and anger on my part that "what do you want to do for dinner".
I have a trick that I use on occasion and you truly can only use it occasionally. I will randomly ask my wife or daughter, "guess what we are having for supper?" or "guess where we are going for supper?" They offer a guess and it is always what we were going to have or go for supper.
I simply tell my boys (16, 17, 18) who are all full size adult people now that 'there are all your categories of food in the house...make something'...and...'every fast food place you want/need is less than a mile walk/bike from our house.'
 
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It also appears that they have two separate play structures with slides on each. It's not a backyard but as much as it's a strategic reserve of recreational redundancies. When these kids enter the workforce they won’t argue with coworkers over shared office resources; they’ll just ask their parents to buy them their own copier, coffee maker, and conference room.
You don't have your own coffee maker?
 
Happy Epiphany. Wadda ya say we go home by a different way?
Jake Gyllenhaal Reaction GIF
 
You don't have your own coffee maker?
Most of the people in the office are Mormons, and because of that we don't have an office coffee fund like other offices. Those of us that want coffee bring in our own makers and supplies. So we have about six coffee makers, each used by one person.
 
My struggle is this new realm of solo-fatherhood. When I am on my own and the boys are with their mother, I can scrounge food together (cooking for one, with leftovers for lunch), or stretch meals over a number of days. I am not picky.
But my kids are picky, and eat like kids. So there's a handful of meals they like. I can get creative too. But snacks, like I need to make a list of snacks they like. My ADHD plays into this too. Grocery shopping always nets a few things I forget so I go to a different store on the way home. Or I think of something to put on the this, but forget it, and dont realize I am missing it until later. I have settled into the fact that I am multiple trip per week guy to the store and cannot plan a weekly shopping trip in a single go to cover everything.

So, long story short, I get annoyed when the boys dont tell me what they want... but I also know they're just kids, they have other stuff on their minds. As do I. I'll make it work.

(really needed to get that out, I guess)
When my step daughter was younger, we would eat sandwiches, cereal, oatmeal, or something easy when she was at her dad's house. When she was with us, her mom or I would usually wind up making a homemade dinner. Our youngest winds up eating quick meals like tacos, brinner, soups, or leftovers most weeknights with sandwiches or ramen on really busy nights. My stepdaughter (oldest) is always a bit put out when we eat sandwiches or the same few meals each week. She's also always surprised how much time is spent cleaning since that was typically done when she was at her dads.

We struggle with snacks. My youngest is indecisive and my wife is always on a health kick or specialized diet. Processed foods are usually not allowed.
 
Pet peeve:

When I ask someone a question via text that requires a simple "yes" or "no," with no other possible answers, and the response is "call me."

Why call when all I need is a yes or a no?

I always respond "in kind," via the same way people reach out to me. (Respond to phone calls via phone call, text via text, e-mail with an e-mail, carrier pigeon with a carrier pigeon, etc.

Jim
 
I have a trick that I use on occasion and you truly can only use it occasionally. I will randomly ask my wife or daughter, "guess what we are having for supper?" or "guess where we are going for supper?" They offer a guess and it is always what we were going to have or go for supper.

That seems genius. I will be trying that in the future.
 
In between meetings I was chatting with a coworker about the vehicle purchase thing for my oldest. They pointed out that you can get aftermarket kits that are self contained systems with apple carplay or android audio, a front camera and a backup camera that are always recording and they are not expensive.

This opens up so many other possibilities for vehicles.
 
I have the opposite. I send a text: "Do you need anything while I am at (Target/grocery store)? to the reply of "No". What do you want for dinner? "I dont know" What snack do you want? "I dont know..."

Then suddenly there's nothing to eat. I dont want that for dinner. Can I get more hair gel? Im out of toothpaste...
That’s why they invented delivery.
 
In between meetings I was chatting with a coworker about the vehicle purchase thing for my oldest. They pointed out that you can get aftermarket kits that are self contained systems with apple carplay or android audio, a front camera and a backup camera that are always recording and they are not expensive.

This opens up so many other possibilities for vehicles.
Having had a young driver, the less bells and whistles (aka distractions and/or over reliance tools) the vehicle has the better off they will be to start off with.

I would recommend a dash cam system though that records while the car is on. The first accident is alway inevitable.
 
Most of the people in the office are Mormons, and because of that we don't have an office coffee fund like other offices. Those of us that want coffee bring in our own makers and supplies. So we have about six coffee makers, each used by one person.

I have a standard coffee maker on my desk, another one in my WFH office, and a 5 cup coffee maker for weekends and stuff.
 
Having had a young driver, the less bells and whistles (aka distractions and/or over reliance tools) the vehicle has the better off they will be to start off with.

I would recommend a dash cam system though that records while the car is on. The first accident is alway inevitable.
The only reason I was apple car play is for the GPS with traffic conditions.

The cameras are for the exact reason you mentioned.
 
...we don't have an office coffee fund like other offices. Those of us that want coffee bring in our own makers and supplies. So we have about six coffee makers, each used by one person.
The first three years of my professional career (working for The Great State of Georgia) was like that - we probably had 30+ individual coffee makers going on days when most folks were in the office (instead of in the field). Circuit breakers tripping was a regular occurrence...
 
My cousin Doordashed pancakes from IHOP once. Bleh.
Pancakes sounds like a pretty bad item for Doordash. What would be the most egregious abuse of Doordash imaginable? Freshly popped popcorn? A bowl of cereal from a nearby diner?
 
That seems genius. I will be trying that in the future.
My wife and I heard a comedian do a bit on it some years ago. So my wife knows it's a trick but she knows if I say that to her that she has permission to think only about herself and not what others in the house would want. My youngest daughter always answers with one of two places but if I would suggest either she would say "i don't know" because she know that neither of the places are my favorites. Getting people pleasers to make a decision is hard.
 
I don't drink coffee but we have a large coffee maker here at City Hall and others in our police and fire stations. It's just something we provide. We also provide water everywhere and have soft drinks at City Hall.
 
In between meetings I was chatting with a coworker about the vehicle purchase thing for my oldest. They pointed out that you can get aftermarket kits that are self contained systems with apple carplay or android audio, a front camera and a backup camera that are always recording and they are not expensive.

This opens up so many other possibilities for vehicles.
Yep, go to https://www.crutchfield.com/S-4mDVAyvJixy/ They've got it all. Although the more modern a car the more limited options are with all those integrated stereos.
 
Pancakes sounds like a pretty bad item for Doordash. What would be the most egregious abuse of Doordash imaginable? Freshly popped popcorn? A bowl of cereal from a nearby diner?
Ice cream in July. "Leave it at my door."
 
I have no idea how she learned this, but I made a fart joke to Alexa, she made a comment about how we don't have a dog, but we have two cockatiels, and their names are Rio and Summer; Summer is six months old and Rio is 16. Yes, that's all accurate, but how the . . .

Only thing I can think of is that I set up a "pet profile" on Amazon, and Alexa works for Amazon.
 
Came in to work, and everyone is dressed super nice. I didn't get the memo because they told people on Monday, when I was off. Apparently, the new city manager candidates are coming today for a meet and greet.

Luckily, I always keep a nice set of clothes at the office. Changing now.
 
Came in to work, and everyone is dressed super nice. I didn't get the memo because they told people on Monday, when I was off. Apparently, the new city manager candidates are coming today for a meet and greet.

Luckily, I always keep a nice set of clothes at the office. Changing now.
Does that mean jacket & tie for you ?
 
Red bellied woodpecker at the feeder.

We have a tiny, tiny backyard at the townhouse. We have bird bath and a feeder, and we get lots of clients, but nothing as exotic as a woodpecker! I think it sounds like good luck. Like the American landscape telling you to visit again when you can. :)
 
I have no idea how she learned this, but I made a fart joke to Alexa, she made a comment about how we don't have a dog, but we have two cockatiels, and their names are Rio and Summer; Summer is six months old and Rio is 16. Yes, that's all accurate, but how the . . .

Only thing I can think of is that I set up a "pet profile" on Amazon, and Alexa works for Amazon.
They are listening and They know what you're thinking, even before you think it.

 
We have a tiny, tiny backyard at the townhouse. We have bird bath and a feeder, and we get lots of clients, but nothing as exotic as a woodpecker! I think it sounds like good luck. Like the American landscape telling you to visit again when you can. :)
Are they really clients, though? As opposed to customers, or dare I say even members?
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Ursus, you will come down to Arizona. We can see my friend Woody the Gila woodpecker that hangs out around the house. We can discuss hair transplants and drinking preferences.
 
Pancakes sounds like a pretty bad item for Doordash. What would be the most egregious abuse of Doordash imaginable? Freshly popped popcorn? A bowl of cereal from a nearby diner?
While not an abuse of Doordash, we did order Waffle House one night about 2 am when no one needed to be driving. Waffle House is not meant to be eaten more than 15 minutes after it was cooked. It did not travel well.
 
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