RTDNTOTO 🐻 Random Thoughts Deserving No Thread Of Their Own 21 (2026)

[ursus]

I learned over the weekend you can order DoorDash from Dave and Buster's. That seems to me to be missing the point. (That place is more about experience, not the "meh" food.)

Sometimes I feel like a door-dash driver. If I leave the house, I am immediately barraged with texts from my sons. "Bruh, if you stop somewhere for a drink can we get Zero Sugar Monsters?"

They were less demanding when they were in diapers, I swear.

 

[zman]

Sometimes I feel like a door-dash driver. If I leave the house, I am immediately barraged with texts from my sons. "Bruh, if you stop somewhere for a drink can we get Zero Sugar Monsters?"

They were less demanding when they were in diapers, I swear.

I have the opposite. I send a text: "Do you need anything while I am at (Target/grocery store)? to the reply of "No". What do you want for dinner? "I dont know" What snack do you want? "I dont know..."

Then suddenly there's nothing to eat. I dont want that for dinner. Can I get more hair gel? Im out of toothpaste...

 

[ursus]

I have the opposite. I send a text: "Do you need anything while I am at (Target/grocery store)? to the reply of "No". What do you want for dinner? "I dont know" What snack do you want? "I dont know..."

Then suddenly there's nothing to eat. I dont want that for dinner. Can I get more hair gel? Im out of toothpaste...

The fighting-est words in the English language - or at least at my house - are "What do you want to do for dinner?" The only time I truly wonder if I want to stay married is when we are resolving THAT question. What happens when we die, how many children do you want to have, do you want to bring another person into our marriage....all these questions could be navigated with less stress and anger on my part that "what do you want to do for dinner".

 

[mendelman]

@ursus

 

[Big Owl]

The fighting-est words in the English language - or at least at my house - are "What do you want to do for dinner?" The only time I truly wonder if I want to stay married is when we are resolving THAT question. What happens when we die, how many children do you want to have, do you want to bring another person into our marriage....all these questions could be navigated with less stress and anger on my part that "what do you want to do for dinner".

I have a trick that I use on occasion and you truly can only use it occasionally. I will randomly ask my wife or daughter, "guess what we are having for supper?" or "guess where we are going for supper?" They offer a guess and it is always what we were going to have or go for supper.

 

[zman]

The fighting-est words in the English language - or at least at my house - are "What do you want to do for dinner?" The only time I truly wonder if I want to stay married is when we are resolving THAT question. What happens when we die, how many children do you want to have, do you want to bring another person into our marriage....all these questions could be navigated with less stress and anger on my part that "what do you want to do for dinner".

My struggle is this new realm of solo-fatherhood. When I am on my own and the boys are with their mother, I can scrounge food together (cooking for one, with leftovers for lunch), or stretch meals over a number of days. I am not picky.
But my kids are picky, and eat like kids. So there's a handful of meals they like. I can get creative too. But snacks, like I need to make a list of snacks they like. My ADHD plays into this too. Grocery shopping always nets a few things I forget so I go to a different store on the way home. Or I think of something to put on the this, but forget it, and dont realize I am missing it until later. I have settled into the fact that I am multiple trip per week guy to the store and cannot plan a weekly shopping trip in a single go to cover everything.

So, long story short, I get annoyed when the boys dont tell me what they want... but I also know they're just kids, they have other stuff on their minds. As do I. I'll make it work.

(really needed to get that out, I guess)

 

[ursus]

@ursus

I am a Level 7 susceptible. I totally, totally am.

 

[mendelman]

I have the opposite. I send a text: "Do you need anything while I am at (Target/grocery store)? to the reply of "No". What do you want for dinner? "I dont know" What snack do you want? "I dont know..."

Then suddenly there's nothing to eat. I dont want that for dinner. Can I get more hair gel? Im out of toothpaste...

The fighting-est words in the English language - or at least at my house - are "What do you want to do for dinner?" The only time I truly wonder if I want to stay married is when we are resolving THAT question. What happens when we die, how many children do you want to have, do you want to bring another person into our marriage....all these questions could be navigated with less stress and anger on my part that "what do you want to do for dinner".

I have a trick that I use on occasion and you truly can only use it occasionally. I will randomly ask my wife or daughter, "guess what we are having for supper?" or "guess where we are going for supper?" They offer a guess and it is always what we were going to have or go for supper.

I simply tell my boys (16, 17, 18) who are all full size adult people now that 'there are all your categories of food in the house...make something'...and...'every fast food place you want/need is less than a mile walk/bike from our house.'

 

[Doohickie]

It also appears that they have two separate play structures with slides on each. It's not a backyard but as much as it's a strategic reserve of recreational redundancies. When these kids enter the workforce they won’t argue with coworkers over shared office resources; they’ll just ask their parents to buy them their own copier, coffee maker, and conference room.

You don't have your own coffee maker?

 

[Doohickie]

Happy Epiphany. Wadda ya say we go home by a different way?

 

[jumbach]

You don't have your own coffee maker?

Most of the people in the office are Mormons, and because of that we don't have an office coffee fund like other offices. Those of us that want coffee bring in our own makers and supplies. So we have about six coffee makers, each used by one person.

 

[JNA]

 

[dandy_warhol]

I learned over the weekend you can order DoorDash from Dave and Buster's. That seems to me to be missing the point. (That place is more about experience, not the "meh" food.)

My cousin Doordashed pancakes from IHOP once. Bleh.

 

[bureaucrat#3]

My struggle is this new realm of solo-fatherhood. When I am on my own and the boys are with their mother, I can scrounge food together (cooking for one, with leftovers for lunch), or stretch meals over a number of days. I am not picky.
But my kids are picky, and eat like kids. So there's a handful of meals they like. I can get creative too. But snacks, like I need to make a list of snacks they like. My ADHD plays into this too. Grocery shopping always nets a few things I forget so I go to a different store on the way home. Or I think of something to put on the this, but forget it, and dont realize I am missing it until later. I have settled into the fact that I am multiple trip per week guy to the store and cannot plan a weekly shopping trip in a single go to cover everything.

So, long story short, I get annoyed when the boys dont tell me what they want... but I also know they're just kids, they have other stuff on their minds. As do I. I'll make it work.

(really needed to get that out, I guess)

When my step daughter was younger, we would eat sandwiches, cereal, oatmeal, or something easy when she was at her dad's house. When she was with us, her mom or I would usually wind up making a homemade dinner. Our youngest winds up eating quick meals like tacos, brinner, soups, or leftovers most weeknights with sandwiches or ramen on really busy nights. My stepdaughter (oldest) is always a bit put out when we eat sandwiches or the same few meals each week. She's also always surprised how much time is spent cleaning since that was typically done when she was at her dads.

We struggle with snacks. My youngest is indecisive and my wife is always on a health kick or specialized diet. Processed foods are usually not allowed.